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Sex is extremely important in a loving relationship. The intimacy and physical bonding helps strengthen the connection between couples. Hormones and body chemistry play a big part in attracting people together to have sex. But once you’re in a committed relationship, making love together becomes better as you develop more trust and start enjoying emotional intimacy in combination with the sensual pleasures. Creating a bond deeper than just friendship requires an understanding and awareness of both ourselves and our partner. Shared experiences, including foreplay and sex, give us opportunities to read each other and pick up nonverbal clues about our partner’s personality. But to get at our real desires and needs, we need to have meaningful conversations one on one.
But talking about intimate or sensitive subjects like sex can be difficult for many people. Our conversation skills tend to be focused more on socializing with friends or interacting with coworkers. Taking into account that gender stereotypes actually apply to both sexes to varying degrees, consider that men tend to have trouble expressing feelings while women tend to be shy about discussing their sexual needs. Social conditioning may inhibit how we express ourselves but we all have needs that can only be satisfied when shared with our partners. To feel really fulfilled, understood and appreciated by our partner we need to have intimate and ongoing conversations about a broad range of topics. To become sexually satisfied, we need to talk to each other about our sexual desires whatever they may be.
Many couples may have talked about sex to a certain degree while dating and assume they know what their partners want. But as you gain more experience in life, love and sex, you also grow your expectations and desires. What may have been novel and thrilling when you were younger may now be considered vanilla or plain. What you desire now might be heavenly hash drizzled with chocolate syrup and topped with whipped cream. As you become more comfortable with yourself and your partner, you may be willing and eager to explore more sophisticated sexual experiences. But unless you communicate these new desires, your partner may never realize that your love life is becoming routine or boring. And it may be happening for them too: both of you eager to explore new sensual pleasures together, but fearful of discussing any ideas for change.
This type of situation is such a shame and it affects so many couples. To ensure your relationship doesn’t fall into this trap, you need to get the conversation started. But, just like sex, you may want to warm up first. Here is a valuable resource that will help guide you through a series of intimate questions while you build your confidence and trust in each other.
Even if you’ve been married for many years, these sexy questions will help you discover even more about what and how your partner thinks about your love and sex life. They will also help you express your desires and even encourage you to discover more about yourself in the process. Download 500 Intimate Questions for Couples now and get your conversation started. You’ll both be glad you did.
