We’ve all experienced the situation when we say something that someone else interprets in a way we didn’t intend. And there were probably many more times that we’re not even aware of it happening. Whether spoken, heard, written or read, words are the primary way we communicate with people. Words may be defined in a dictionary but we all have slightly different meanings developed in our own minds. Even if we are using the same “official” definition, everyone has a personal meaning associated with words they know. Our experiences, emotions and memories get tied up with words and phrases we hear throughout our lives. Even without knowing it, certain words will automatically trigger thoughts and emotions that affect how we communicate with other people. In a relationship, this can lead to false assumptions, miscommunication and arguments. Being aware that people may react strongly to various words will help when you ask each other dating questions or even more intimate sex questions.
When it comes to sex, words are even more emotionally loaded. One word could turn you on while it’s synonym might turn you off totally. Knowing which one to use while attempting to talk dirty in bed might be useful information. Sex related swear words and even derogatory slang can also play a role in hot dirty talk. But again the choice of words can be critical. During the throes of passion, some women may get off being called a Slut while others would cringe in disgust. In a similar way, Bitch may resonate with some women’s persona while for others it’s demeaning. Like a mental minefield, it’s important to discover what words your lover prefers so you can avoid triggering a bad reaction.
We also develop various euphemisms to describe sexual activities or situations. These sexual euphemisms get picked up based on our social setting and experiences involving friends, parents, TV, movies, books, etc. Based on the feelings involved during these experiences, various words and phrases can also become emotionally charged. For instance, do you like to get laid, screwed, fucked or made love to and in what context? Do prefer the terms going down, sucked off, eaten out, blow job or the more clinical terms like cunnilingus and fellatio?
Here are some sample sex questions to help identify the best words and phrases to use in your intimate conversations and which ones to avoid:
- What terms have you used to refer to oral sex (both fellatio and cunnilingus)?
- What words or phrases have you used to refer to sexual intercourse?
- What terms have you used to refer to masturbation?
- What terms have you used to refer to anal sex?
- What words or phrases do you use for male and female orgasms?
- What terms do you use to describe feeling horny or aroused?
- What is the most intriguing term you’ve heard for a kinky sex activity?
- What kinds of sex related words do you avoid using and why?
- What sex related swear or slang words are appropriate for dirty talk in the bedroom?
- What sex related words would you prefer not to hear?
- What words do you tend to use for our body’s private parts?
- What pet names would you use for our genitals?
- What made up super hero name would you give for your erotic persona?
- Besides your name, what is the sexiest thing I could say to you during sex?
- What is the hottest thing I could whisper in your ear to trigger an intense orgasm?
- What words or phrases do you associate with romantic lovemaking?
- What words or phrases do you associate with wild, passionate sex?
As your relationship matures, you’ll find that you make up your own secret code words to use while flirting openly in public settings. Your sly innuendos with hidden meanings can be used to tease each other while ramping up your desire to have wild passionate sex the first chance you get. You can use this like mental foreplay anywhere you desire.
Here are some books that will provide more information to guide your erotic talk and sexy seduction techniques:
- The Fine Art of Erotic Talk
- Sex Talk – How to Tell Your Lover Exactly What You Want
- How to Talk Dirty – Drive Her Wild in Bed
- Sultry Sex Talk to Seduce Any Lover
- Talk Sexy to the One You Love
- Sex Talk – Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Turns You On
- Talking Dirty – Master the Art of Bedroom Talk
What are the right words for you in your relationship?
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