What kinds of unusual things do you find erotic and get turned on by?
Although our biology plays a big part, many of our sexual preferences are formed based on our early experiences. This is a complex psychological process. Because our experiences, interpretations and emotional impressions are all different, we are each unique in what we find erotic and arousing. But regardless of how your erotic preferences developed, they define your distinct sexual personality and affect how you interact with your partner. It can feel scary exploring and learning about what turns you on let alone discussing it with your partner. Although it requires a lot of trust to share these deeply personal and private details, revealing insights into your erotic nature can be extremely rewarding for both of you. By asking intimate dating questions about what turns you on, you create a strong emotional connection which will dramatically enhance your sex life.
As you explore and begin to appreciate your unique erotic personalities, you’ll be able to inspire each other to shed inhibitions and reach new heights of passion together. Take a look at the book Getting The Sex You Want for more information about discovering what turns you on. It has a variety of exercises to help develop your sexual communication skills and expand your sexual comfort zones together.
